It is rape:
when you do not receive consent
when he/she does not agree
when you force consent out of him/her
when you do not allow him/her to have a say
when you have to just take it
when you use your power/image to control his/her responses
when he/she surrenders to you
when you have to fight him/her for it
when he/she is not aware that you are taking it
when you intimidate him/her into agreeing to give it to you
when you use coy and other tactics to sneak it on him/her
It is incest:
when you are the daddy and he/she is your son/daughter
when you are the mummy and he/she is your son/daughter
when he/she is your sister, brother, cousin, aunt, niece, uncle, nephew, grandchild or grandparent
It is paedophilia:
when he/she is under the age of 16 years
when you are turned on by a person who is under the age of 16 years
when you enjoy sexual acts with a person who is under the age of 16 years
when you become a father to the children of children who are under 16 years
It is child molestation, child sexual assault, child sexual abuse when you intentionally touch a child sexually:
like when you use your hand to stimulate their private parts
like when you suck on a young girl’s budding breasts whatever the size
like when you rub yourself on a child until you get an erection
like when you kiss a child the way you kiss adults sexually
It is cowardice:
when you work hard to cover up your actions
when you hide from your actions
when you hide behind a technicality
when you refuse to accept responsibility and give account
when you refuse to apologise
when you refuse to act
when you blame others
when you deliberately divert from the real issue at hand
when you villainize the victims
when you continue to perpetuate hate against the victims
when you remain SILENT
when you use violence to cower the child into silence
It is unfair, unjust and cruel:
when your victims bear the burden of guilt and shame for the rest of their lives
when your victims cannot form lasting relationships in life
when your victims lose out on education and other social amenities
when your victims become zombies in society
when your victims cry every single day
when your victims cry out and are silenced into shame by the disbelief of others
when your victims are abused and rejected by persons employed in protective social services
when your victims sometimes have to see you every day
when your victims do not get the acknowledgement and the apology they need
when your victims live in fear; for themselves and their children
when your victims live in fear of everyone in society
when your victims find it hard to trust others, to put confidence in others
when your victims question themselves, day and night
Big Man, Big Woman, you have just been outed by your own inaction, your silence, your lies and the evidence you have left behind. The least you can do now that you are old, is to admit what you did, admit you were wrong and apologize for the hurt and damage that you have caused. Then, perhaps, might one consider forgiving you.
